It seems to be that many of these posts are for younger children than mine 11 and 15. I know the 15 already is aware she can make choices.

And it sounds like many here have been married/divorced before.

I just want to be able to talk to people within the same range of circumstances I mean if I am a meager poverty man
I shouldn’t be necessarily getting advice from either side if they are on the upper side of the track.

Nor if I were say on the high side of salary and this is first and last divorce I will have (guaranteed – I am not marrying again – will either live together or in sin) and these are my only children biologically that I am going to have it should make a difference to those who listen to me or whom I listen to